“The need to be anything else than what you are is wishing that you never existed.”
One of the toughest things to do, but should be the simplest is to love oneself. However, many people are unhappy today because they fail to love themselves. We keep discovering something we hate about ourselves and always wish to be like others. The only problem with wishing to be like someone else is that we lose our identity and miss the path to self-discovery.
The need to be anything else than what you are is wishing that you never existed.
The older I get, the more I realize how much I want to exist because I know I have so much to give to people.
Do not be discouraged by the societal perception of beauty. The true definition of a beautiful woman is one who is confident, kind, and one who encourages and cares about others.
I am not saying that you should not do things that will enhance your beauty. What I am trying to say is that you should NEVER wish you didn’t exist by always wishing you were a different person. There is a big difference between enhancing and changing oneself.
While growing up as a little girl, I was made to realize how gorgeous I looked! Thanks to my mom and sisters for instilling such a powerful message in me. Although I saw myself as the most beautiful girl on earth, I suddenly realized how from school how mistaken I might have been. I recall one day in class when my 5th-grade teacher told the whole class that ‘most models had Masi’s nose.’ Though not true, I believed her.
I’m not so sure when the image of myself changed, but I recall a period in my life when I drastically questioned my beauty. I still remember the days I would look at myself in the mirror and wish for a pointy nose, bigger boobs, or lighter skin. I wished to be anyone else, but myself. I fed myself with a lot of negative thoughts, and my identity reflected this negative perception I had of myself. My actions also reflected an insecure person. There was a time my cousins had taken a clothes hanger and told me to put it on my nose; in hopes that my nose would get smaller. Actions, like that, planted a negative seed in my head.
However, I really appreciate my mom, sisters, brothers, friends, and family who kept on reminding me of how beautiful I am.
Notwithstanding, it does not matter the number of people that compliment you, if you do not believe it yourself, it will never have any effect on you.
Below is a list of a couple of things I did differently that restored a positive mindset about myself. It worked for me, and I believe it will work for you.
**TOP 5 THINGS TO DO**
Focus on what you like about yourself.
The problem with most of us is that we spend the whole time criticizing ourselves. However, the saying “if you have nothing good to say, don’t say anything” should apply to what you say to yourself. Find five things you like about yourself and celebrate those five things every day.
We are a product of what we think. So, if you think you are ugly, then that is what you become! So, you can choose to be beautiful! Instead of nurturing the thought that you are ugly or not good enough, change that mindset and think positive!
Use Affirmative Words
I always use affirmative words on myself. Here is an exercise for you;
Look at your reflection on the mirror and say to yourself, ‘I am beautiful and awesome!’ You will always feel happy and encouraged.
Faith is key! Never stop believing that you were created in God’s image. You are a reflection of God’s beauty. We are all beautiful in our unique ways. Remember, you wouldn’t have been anyone else.
It is good to compliment others. It is a way of reflecting your beauty on others as you make them feel great. It builds their confidence and eliminates the feeling of insecurity.
When you compliment others, it makes you feel good too. You can try it today and see how you feel.
You are Powerful & Beautiful
Do not let anyone take your power from you! Stay strong and beautiful!